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Our Dog is Dying

Should people have the right to die?

Scima is an old dog.

She’s lived a good life and had many health issues. She now seems to have full hip dysplasia and really can’t walk much on her own or even squat to relieve herself.

As I looked at her last night, wondering if she’d wake in the morning, I thought of all the other pets I’ve lost over the years and realized that most had not just failed to wake up one morning. Most of the pets I had through childhood had some sort of illness that the vet treated as long as we could and when we felt that our pet’s life was nothing but pain and suffering or a vegetative state on pain medicine, we let the vet end that pet’s life with as much dignity and remaining joy in life as possible. It was always a hard decision and it was never made lightly.


Animals can’t communicate their desires to end their lives other than to stop eating, which is what Scima did this weekend, but Sunday night, she did eat a bit of chicken, so maybe she still has hope. I never want to keep an animal alive in an unhappy state just for my own enjoyment of that animal. That would just not be fair. We will see how the week progresses with Scima, but looking at her and thinking these things made me think that we, as a society condone and support putting pets to sleep that are infirm and who cannot make that decision themselves, but yet, we deny people, who can make that decision the same right.

If Scima were a person and she told the doctors that she had made her peace with the world and she was suffering too much to continue, she could not get relief from her doctor. She could sign a living will so that she would not be resuscitated and other actions would not be performed to keep her alive, but if she wanted to die, she would have to resort to the same method a dog would use. She would have to stop eating.

These are my own thoughts, what are yours?

Kim Miller June 27, 2012 at 01:19 pm
My mother has been suffering with Alzheimer's for a very long time. I agree with you wholeheartedly... we treat our animals better then our people.
Lorbee June 27, 2012 at 01:42 pm
Your Scima sounds exactly like our Cody did, stopped eating, etc. and ultimately we had to make that horrible decision. The last 2 dogs we had before him did not require that and they did indeed 'die on their own.' But having to put him "down" was something that even now, after 3 years, I still find painful. So much so, in fact, that I am not getting another dog because I don't want to face this again. Good luck and remember the Rainbow Bridge, ok?
J W Kritzman June 27, 2012 at 01:52 pm
I 100% agree that we as human beings should be allowed to end our lives with dignity & respect. Perhaps we could convince a legislator to allow this to come up for a public vote...
tchardo June 27, 2012 at 02:12 pm
Funny that I should read this after my beloved 11 year old dog, Kaya, passed away on the operating table of Bryn Mawr vet yesterday. She had a ruptured spleen but her heart stopped while under anesthesia. She went so quickly that I feel like we didn't get to say goodbye but I suppose she did it for our sake. It is truly like missing a member of our family. She was the best dog anyone could ever asked for.
Anthony Wayne June 27, 2012 at 02:13 pm
So sorry to hear of your sick pet. Some have responded sharing human stories. In matters as important as this it is important to follow your heart and the wishes of your loved one. The current law and doctors views are irrelevant.
Theresa Pyne June 27, 2012 at 02:45 pm
Such an emotionally wrenching process this end of life event is, for everyone involved. My heart goes out to you and Scima. I hope her passing is smooth and peaceful.
And that you find comfort in knowing you had her, and that she had a good life. I wish you Strength!
Karen Barton June 27, 2012 at 03:46 pm
Over the years I have held four beloved cats while they were painlessly euthanized. For me, the most important issue is that the animal must not be forced to suffer. Too many people selfishly insist on trying all sorts of draconian measures to keep their animals alive -- for the human's sake, not for the animal's sake.
Media Resident June 27, 2012 at 05:57 pm
That is the hardest yet most unselfish act we all must do as pet owners at least once in our lives- my heart is heavy for you. We are each the master of our own destiny. People should have the right to end their lives if they chose to do so-- as quickly and as painlessly as possible, certainly not forced to endure starving oneself. Our society is so focused on the legality instead of the humanity of the issue.
Margaret Litka June 27, 2012 at 07:28 pm
My sympathy on what you are going through. I still mourn my pets from my childhood who have crossed the Rainbow Bridge. I am grower old now and I plan to choose my way to join my pets again when and how I wish. We truly are not legally given the right to die with dignity, the gift we can give out pets. In Europe this is not even an issue. It is a human right. Again, my sympathy in the eventual passing of Scima and I'm sure you gave her a wonderful life.
Lucy Bennett (Editor) June 27, 2012 at 09:26 pm
I'm so sorry to hear your dog's death. I hope you have lots of lovely memories to keep you company in this difficult time.
Lucy Bennett (Editor) June 27, 2012 at 09:27 pm
Thank you all for your support. These are difficult choices for us all to make, but it is good to have the wonderful memories we have, and it today's digital age, pictures and maybe even video to comfort us.
Shannon June 27, 2012 at 11:36 pm
When we had to put our beloved 15 year old German Shepard down two years ago I had the same thoughts. Why is it considered the "humane" thing to do when our pets are suffering in their finals days to "put them down" and "end the suffering", but yet it's not acceptable to do the same for a human-who could actually voice their wishes to be euthanized?
Mary Taylor June 28, 2012 at 12:58 am
I was fortunate to have three wonderful dogs, only one died naturally and the other two were euthanized when they could not eat, walk and their organs shut down. Even tho I knew they were suffering, the decisions did not come easy but my head, not my heart told me it was time to release them from their pain. I had to do what was best for them but each time, a piece of my heart broke off so I know what you are now going thru and I am sure your precious Scima understands. Mary Taylor, a former Phoenixville resident.
Ike June 28, 2012 at 01:43 am
Losing a pet is the same as losing a person .I cried when all the dogs we had left. I lost my first one when i was 12 , had him since i was born.Lose my last one when i was 45 , still cried. God i miss them .
JamesIgnatius June 28, 2012 at 03:53 am
People are not pets. We are created in the image and likeness of God - human life must be regarded in a manner unique from other creatures. Our lives are not our own - we have been purchased at a great price; it is good for us to remember this when considering end-of-life issues. That said, there is no obligation to unnecessarily prolong human life (i.e.- artificial/assisted cardio or pulmonary support) - but proactively ending human life (euthanisia) is a grave error and an affront to our Creator.
If you want a glimpse of the other side, check out Belgium. Over there it is legal to euthanize the elderly and infirm - many old folks are afraid to go to the doctors for fear that they will be deemed too feeble to make such a decision for themselves, so it will be made for them.
Carla Zambelli June 28, 2012 at 12:30 pm
Lucy,
Dogs are part of our families and they offer us unconditional love. The hardest decision we face as pet owners is letting them go. It is a balance and we have to honor them by letting them go when it's time for them, and not just keep them around for us. Two years ago this Labor Day, I had to make that decision with one of my dogs. She did not start out as my dog, truthfully you could say I inherited her. She was a shepherd husky mix and a magnificant dog. Her name was Mattie. I know all too well where you are, and oh did I love that dog. For your sake and that of your beloved pet, please say your good-byes. Not saying that to be mean, but if we listen as humans, they tell us when they are ready. They show us. I have always made a promise to my pets to let them go when they are ready and not keep them around just for me. I have kept that promise thus far through out the years, and it never gets easier. Look in her eyes, your dog will tell you what she cannot say. You love her, she loves you and it is so hard when we realize the time to say good-bye is coming. Hang in there.
fed up June 28, 2012 at 01:07 pm
JamesIgnatiius-
Stop spreading false information. There is zero evidence I support your claim. Euthanasia is a CHOICE in Belgium, not a mandate. Others allow you to live your life in whichever misguided way you choose, as long as it doesnt affect me- or my loved ones. This includes my right to die whenever I choose. Our lives ARE our own. That is why god gave us free will. You are usin a computer to make your ridiculous claims...so come out a little further from the dark ages. You're almost there
Lucy, I am sorry to hear about your pet. I was blessed, as my 13 year old dog died swiftly at home. He accompanied me on my daily morning run for almost as many years. I still tell stories of the things he found and ate along the way, how he would never let me sleep past 6 a.m. rain/shine/snow, the things he discovered and "rolled in" along the way.
Today I have two clients on hospice here in our neighborhood. One at a nearby nursing home, the other living at home. It is not necessarily a tragic experience; one must have a valid living will, and an agent to direct others to follow your wishes. The document alone is often not enough; forms downloaded from the Internet may not be valid. But if you have those two things, hospice (which is covered by Medicare) can be a time of celebration or a solemn ceremony according to the wishes of the individual dying. Some individuals, particularly Catholics, do not want early termination of life; others do not mind aggressive treatment of pain which might hasten death. Each is entitled to their opinion. The important thing is that your wishes are followed, or else a reluctant doctor or family member may not let you die as you desire. B/T/W, dying individuals reject food, and often involuntarily remove a feeding tube. All of my clients and friends are on their way to dying (me too), but most are in denial. While early death is always tragic and can never be made a time of celebration, for most it does not have to be a time of suffering
JamesIgnatius June 28, 2012 at 03:28 pm
Yo fed up,
The Dark Ages, ...that's a real zinger - why don't you throw in the Inquisition to really slam dunk your argument. Have you been to Belgium? I have, and I know of what I speak.
fed up June 28, 2012 at 04:09 pm
JamesIgnatius-
May as well throw that in too. Seems like you're just another religious fanatic. So when were you in Belgium & what did you witness? I have researched this and find no validity to your erroneous argument. Do you have literature I can read?...& please don't tell me the bible. That book has unfortunately been misinterpreted by ignorant humans since the day it was written.
Lucy Bennett (Editor) June 29, 2012 at 07:02 am
Update: Scima stopped eating completely and was showing signs that her pain medication was not working anymore. She passed peacefully with a little help from the vet Thursday evening and now she's not in pain anymore.
I would like to say a big thank you to the doctors and staff at Main Line Veterinary Hospital in Fraser. They have shown a degree of caring for Scima during her trials and tribulations this last year that goes way above and beyond expectations, and helped to make her last weeks, days and moments as pain-free as possible. And thanks to all of you for your support and caring.
Bob Byrne (Editor) June 29, 2012 at 10:03 am
:-( So sorry for your loss.
Anthony Leone June 29, 2012 at 11:32 am
I'm very sorry to hear about your loss.
Allan Ash June 29, 2012 at 11:38 am
My sympathies to you and your family. She looked like a beautiful dog and I am sure you will always remember the joy she brought to your family.
Judy June 29, 2012 at 01:14 pm
Scima was a beautiful dog and a good sniffin' neighbor friend for our dog, Willie. We will surely miss saying hello to dear Scima along with a pat on the head. I hope this time of sadness passes gently. Willie, our yellow lab, is over 14 and on a pain medication that has given him a bit more time with us... but now and then I do see that glint of sadness in his eyes that my husband can't see. Recently a friend and I were discussing euthanasia as she had just put down their 14 yr.old dog and was grief stricken. Her words are still in the forefront of my mind... "It's better to be 2 months or 2 weeks TOO early than to be one day TOO late". I have been thinking about end of life circumstances for humans as well as pets and your article, Lucy, has prompted some interesting discussion.
John Kahler June 29, 2012 at 03:28 pm
This is hard, we've had many pets we have lost over the years. There are resources to help - my wife is part of the work done by the Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement at aplb.org. They have online chats where you can find assistance and share with others - they're free and have helped many. The site also has many other resources. Tanks for sharing.
Susan June 29, 2012 at 03:58 pm
A hug and prayers of comfort for you and Scima.
I love my dog and hope that when the time comes, I will know it and bless him with the same loving kindness that you have done for yours.
Jim L June 30, 2012 at 11:13 pm
Very sorry to hear about this but it happens to all of us.
After I waited a couple of weeks too long with my prior three dogs (and 1 cat), I vowed not to be so selfish and do that again. You know when it's time (we all do), but our animals have been a part of the family for anywhere from 8 to 17 years and it's tough, real tough, but they're far better off to let them go to sleep.
Susan Silverberg July 2, 2012 at 09:30 pm
Lucy, having last gone through this twelve years ago, it is always hard. I've had three dogs,five birds and numerous goldfish and turtles. My last dog, Rambo was the hardest since the illness took his eyesight and became very debilitating. It was cushings syndrome and sards. But Ram asked me to let him go one night, because animals really do communicate feelings. We had thirteen years and I never replaced him because he was irreplacable. The apartment I live at has dog tennants, so I play with them instead. My best advice is tocry when you need to and I hope you cremated your pet. I still talk to Ram, when things get tough.
Carolynne Park July 3, 2012 at 08:52 pm
In Washington state and Oregon, a person does have the right to request and receive Doctor assisted suicide when they suffer a terminal illness. I don't know how often the law is used by dying residents, but having lost my brother in Washington state just over 2 weeks ago, I can tell you that he was comforted by the knowledge that he had that option. His death was so fast that he had not yet reached the point of wanting to end his life. But I know he was aware of the law and probably would have used it if his suffering became unbearable.
Lucy, you alone must make this decision for your beloved dog. If she were a wild creature, nature would have ended her life before now. Your loving stewardship for all her life makes you responsible for how her life ends. I know you will do what is right for Scima. Don't forget to tell her how much you love her and to thank God for giving you such a beautiful and loyal friend.

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